I was very neglectful because I always believed it was my role to work as much as I could and focus on my career and my wifes role to take care of the kids. I figured my family would always be there, I was wrong. I didn't realize what I was missing or how much my kids and my wife needed me. It took my wife walking out the first time for me to understand this. At that point I did change drastically, I did everything I could to be the best father and husband. I got involed in my kids lives I spent more time with my wife ,dinners, vacations, alot more talking, alot more sex, but I feel like I was too late because my wife had already given up and her resendment was too great. How do you heal these old wounds? and yes I have read divorce remedy , it was great.