So, as per counselling instructions...today was my chosen day to text a simple Good Morning to STBX. He responded in kind.

Then about 20 minutes later I get a phone call from STBX. Apparently his mother is in another city a few hours away, to visit his grandmother, and he wants to switch weekend custody to take our kids for a visit. It's my weekend.

I told him I'd think on it.
I felt awash in feelings at that moment ( anger being the initial one of them) so I needed time and didn't just blurt out " hell no."

Still, I'm in a good place emotionally today. Out of poor me mode and I feel happy and even ok with the thought of him divorcing me, the day to day things wouldn't change much from the way they were/are now to be truthful.
I can find another partner/companion through life.
I can do fine on my own.
The sunsets are just as beautiful with or without him.


BITS
Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.