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H - I think this is fantastic. Let me explain. It is my theory (and I'm only 1 guy so take it for what it's worth), that the LBS MUST get to the point you just described before they can really detach and therefore have the real possibility of reconciliation. Re-read my sitch from early June. You'll see many of the same words you said in what I wrote. Will it turn around for you? I have no idea. But I don't think it's really possible until you get to the point you just described because only then can you really regain your strength and become attractive again. And I do think that getting to the point you made means you're starting to recognize that you'll be fine - even great - no matter which way it goes. That's progress in my book.

24 hours before my W made commitments to me to work on things, anybody in the world - and I mean anybody, professional, novice, whatever - would have told you that she was dead set on D and there was no chance of a change. Hell, my W is a therapist and yours is a p-shrink - and what the hell do they know? As J3B is fond of saying: "the future is written in smoke".

If you do take a break - and I get it, remember my 3 month break from here - you'll be missed.