Don't know where I am

[Navyguy]

Harrier,

I hear the same crap from my IC, almost on a weekly basis. While an IC may be a "professional", it's really up to you to decide what you are willing to put up with and what is best for you. Take IC's input, but it certainly shouldn't be the end-all, be-all.

You went from "I love my wife in every way" to "my feelings of love for my W are gone" in 24 hours. Does that seem reasonable?

I have similar feelings. I know the grass could be greener on the other side. My IC continues to guide me toward doing what is best for me. I appreciate that, and understand it is her job. All that being said, here's what keeps me going:

1. I love W and am very attracted to her, emotionally and physically.
2. W and I staying together is by far best for our kids.
3. I know this process continues to make me a better person. I am and will continue to be a great husband. If W wants to throw that away, that's her loss.
4. If this ends in D, then years from now I want to be able to look in the mirror and look my kids in the eyes and tell myself/them that I did everything I possibly could to save our M, and know deep down that it is true.

Don't stop believin'....