wife firm on divorce or not?

[MHL]

Hey Billy,
Just saw your other posts.....

Okay, in most situations I would tell most new posters to disengage........that is not the case with you.

When you are talking to your W, and you say that all you have to talk about is the past.

Just listen........

but next time stop remembering the events through your eyes.....

try to remember the events, the words, the moments through her eyes.

You are letting you perspective on the your common past influence your feelings about what is going on today.

It is TIME to start loving your W without regards to what you want, what you need, what you desire.......

The next time you talk with her, Validate what she is saying...

it kinda goes like this.

W, I hear what you are saying and up until now I had a different perspective on that.......I now understand how you felt in that situation.

THUMP

that was your W's jaw hitting the floor.

Start thinking like that, take out how you feel, what you want and truely think about her feelings.........see what happens.

Do that consistently for the rest of your life and guess what????

You will be a better person, a better father, a better friend and maybe one day a better husband.

Hope this helps

Cheers