Thanks MHL. Sadly, you are correct. My W holds a level of anger that even I am surprised by at times. Much of this originates from her parents' separation, I'm convinced. The anger pervaded our M and I chose to walk away rather than address it. This led to the downfall. She felt unsupported. I was tired of her uncompromising anger and control.
I am aware of my detachment failures. I am soon to get a new phone, so no more monitoring for her. This has been a temptation she can't avoid. Perhaps it will help. But, as many know, having children amps the detachment challenge to the max.
I'm not sure about the letter. My new strategy may be to confront him with it; having no intention of sending to his bosses. I'll let him out himself. Then he flails at me and I respond by dismembering him with his staple remover. At least that's the fantasy. Justifiable homicide by office products.
