I think I'm done.

[MHL]

CNS,
Wow, I will have to say that in the hundreds if not thousands of threads I have read here the capacity for anger that your wife holds is only rivaled by that of Eric's wife and I don't mean to say that as a snarky or comical remark, however if you or anyone else gets a chuckle out of it then I am sure Eric won't mind.

I guess some of them never let it go, could just be part of who they are also.....I mean that some people just are "hot blooded". I am dating one now......it is not a problem because I go into the relationship knowing and I accept it.

I know you have endure much and the fact that she is pointing the finger at you for moving on or getting a life just shows how unhappy she truly is.......I mean really if she was so happy with her OM then would she really care???? It is more about blame for the downfall of the marriage, she knows she is responsible for her decisions and her affair but it is a blantant attempt to "level the field".

I would say that you are still entangled with her more than is neccessary to raise your kids as divorced parents. I know you still have pain and it is okay, I don't think it ever goes away for good, it just gets further and farther inbetween.

Let that be your goal.

As far as the letter goes.......I will say that it is very well written. I am having a hard time being objective on it even though I know that it only will feed your unattachment.....meaning you will be looking for the results of your letter after you send it.

That being said..........I would love to see the f@cker loose his job.

Don't send it, I am not going to hit you with 2X4's just reinforce what you have already said that you need to work on.

Hang in there......it gets better......when you let it.

Cheers