Tad, I read the quotes above and recounted every conversation I've had with W over the last year. About half of those quotes were verbatim out of her mouth.
I believe half of what she says is her therapist, another quarter is OM, another quarter is the funk that surrounds her. Perhaps all our spouses find the same website which confirms all their choices. Or maybe that b*tch in "eat,pray, love" influenced her. Whatever the case, there will always be someone offering solice and the thought that humans are not meant to be monogamous. We are conditioned that everything's disposable; relationships, people.
This is tough sledding. I'm not totally successful at detaching, but I've felt the best when I'm furthest away. Do your best. We only answer to God and ourselves.