Ok, in my failure to detach, I have given consideration to my future and I need to make some changes. I am looking for advice here. I wrote the following letter in order to begin separating myself from W and my sitch, but I'd be OK if it exacted a pound of flesh as well. OM has had no consequences, and the fallout from this letter could create some. I intend to send it to his supervisors. I'd appreciate any thoughts.
"The purpose of this letter is to alert you to the conflict of interest and professional misconduct exhibited by a morally corrupt representative of your company, S.C. His behavior is directly contrary to the “fair, ethical and respectful treatment” referenced in the Client Relationship Guide.
Mr. C is engaging in a sexual relationship with his client, my wife. I hope you will not dismiss this letter as an emotional missive by a jilted spouse. The anger resulting from the disclosure of the affair has long passed. Rather, my concern is that in a divorce scenario, where all retirement assets are bifurcated into equal portions and distributed to each spouse, Mr. C will have managed my assets without regard for my financial or personal well-being. Moreover, I would contend that during his term as vendor representing your company, he intentionally and willfully undermined my relationship with my wife and by extension; purposefully impaired my financial condition.
It seems that following his own divorce he needed to further demonstrate his apparent disdain for the institution of marriage. The origin of the emotional affair lasting months; perhaps years can be contested, however the continuing physical affair which began in September 2009 cannot. Providing tangible evidence of the affair is beyond the scope of this letter, but it does exist. My wife had no alternative but to speak with Mr. C while performing in her role as XXX. She would have had no occasion to meet him outside the duties of her position. Unfortunately, your representative exploited his role as “advisor” to gain access to my wife and advance his personal agenda.
The difficulty of sustaining a viable marriage is well-known. I take responsibility for my contribution to the troubled state of my relationship. I concede that there are no innocents in this scenario save for my young children, but Mr. Cs persistence and continued presence has precluded any discussion of reconciliation.
I do not seek any specific action in conjunction with this letter. I intend simply to make you aware of the impropriety of your representative. However, should a divorce settlement result in the acquisition of assets supplied by Mr. C, the pursuit of reparations is warranted."
