JackThreeBeans,

Why did I say I wasn't mad? Because I just didn't know what to say. I could have told him that I was furious and sickened by him at that moment but what would it had accomplished? Perhaps a big scene that seemed fruitless at that point.

My actions said what my words didn't. He was squirming. It was probably hard for him to feel rejected by me because he's never had to face that before. I'm a naturally 'warm' person - always chatting, talking, listening, supporting, touching, caring for whomever I'm with. But I just went cold, I didn't want to fight and I didn't even care about trying to get him to understand MY feelings.

If he cared about my feelings he wouldn't be doing what he's doing. Fact is, he doesn't care about my feelings so why get into with him. So I lied because I didn't want to talk about it - it wouldn't have gone anywhere anyway.

Was it a mistake? Did I miss an opportunity to DB?


Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011