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[Lonely in SLC]

Thanks Sandi and Johnnie for chiming in. It is nice to know that someone is reading this other than myself. This whole situation has been crazy.

The weekend like everything else had its ups and downs. I will start off with the good.

Saturday morning I went up to the family cabin with parents, brothers, and my sister and her family to work on the yard. It was a beautiful sunny day up in the mountains. Afterwards bbq hamburgers. Working and keeping occupied helps keep the negative thoughts of the divorce out of my mind.

My wife dropped the kids off late in the afternoon. She asked me to watch them because there was a party for one of her friends that is moving out of the state. Another excuse to go dancing in my opinion. Played games with the kids all Saturday evening.

On Sunday I took the kids to a waterpark. Had a great time. All of us got a little sunburned. Mental note, suntan lotion only lasts about 2 - 3 hours.

Now for the downers. I have to stop reading her facebook updates. Nothing good comes from it. I just would like to know if I see more activity with the security guard now that she is almost divorced.

Saturday afternoon she updates her status that she is excited going out on a Saturday night being single, as a opposed to married, for the first time in years. Grrrrrrrr! I also noticed that she sent some minor flirtatious messages to another guy. It just said "How are you doing good looking." Granted, he does not live in the country, but still, it bothers me. Is this how she will act with all guys now?

I know that we are separated and will be divorced in just a few short weeks, but if or when she moves on to another guy will hurt. I am curious to see how fast though.

After Friday's events, I wondered if she would change her mind before the Judge signs off on the divorce. I had even told her that it was not to late to change her mind Saturday afternoon. When I dropped the kids off Sunday night I asked her if she had thought about it. (I know, bring on the 2x4s). She said she did, and what is done is done.

She is a very stubborn person. I always knew that in her mind, once a decision is made, you don't back out or make changes. Hopefully the rest of her list will follow.