DG, I also wanted to say that if your H had 'moved on,' he would have filed himself already. I envy the position you are in: YOU are holding the cards, not him. I wish I could say the same.

Hang in there DG, I will NEVER think you are a fool.

Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011