friends and family at things from an outside perspective and for the most part tell you things ro protect u and because they feel it is the right thing to do.
Your life and your decision
One thing about DB that I think people confuse is that they get the impression that letting go is giving up and that maybe DB "makes you hold on" to long.
Problem is when we start out we think giving up is letting go and it is not the same.
You can maintain hope but still let go and move on
Some people take a long time to understand this concept, some never do.
I have taken a long time to understand this and even today I'm not fully sure I've grasped it, although I understand the preinciple behind it not really sure I've mastered the technique completely.
DB is not really about saving M and I don't think a lot get saved it is mostly about coping with the pain and saving yourself.
Now for those that have the stomach to outlast the while sitch they can make it.
When you can make a decision and not react emotionally to it, like moving on, then u are on your way.
