Letting go is hard to do!

[Seminolewind]

I sent the E-mail that Scylla edited and I got this as a response today.

As their parents, I feel it is best for us to decide what is right for our children, not a judge or strangers. As for D17, it may work to have split custody until her child is born. D12 is still needing stability. Splitting week to week is not healthy, and I do not think it will work for her at all. I've been more than generous and flexible for you to have more time with them whenever you or they so choose. Let's decide to call the divorce final as of tomorrow. Are you going to delay this until September?

This is what I sent her back today.

This is not about delaying the divorce we will be divorced tomorrow at 9:00 AM as you wish, we will just have to wait until September on the custody to be decided unless we agree today. I was told by my lawyer that the Judge is all about the kids and what is best for them, I am confident he will put the children’s best interests first. I have spoken to both of our daughters individually and together, they are the ones that are needing both of their parents involved in their lives. I know both girls need stability and that is my goal as their father.



I have never complained about your fairness as far as letting D12 stay with me. I can't predict the future of how things will turn out, nor can you. Our daughters love us both equally and I don't ever want to make them choose, because it is something I believe will hurt them. This is about what is fair for our children in a difficult situation. There are no winners when a family splits, we both need to step up and do what is best for the children as parents. The girls have told me they would like equal time custody and I agree with them that it would be fair all the way around and it would provide stability. I remain firm on my decision.

I sent that without asking for guidance on this forum because it really is my feelings at this point. I might not be a great word smith but I think my point is clear. I would like any input that you might have. Yes my marriage is over tomorrow and I am a little nervous but I believe I am heading in the right direction. I don't know how I am going to react tomorrow but I hope I can be as positive as any of us going through this crap.

Life will be better with each day.