Originally Posted By: Starsky
Because she most likely never broke all contact with her OM. It is an addiction, and it's extremely hard to break.


And it is a symptom or a coping mechanism to the crisis. As is alcohol, drugs,over-spending, promiscuity, ....

The Affair and her behavior is "what" is happening.

The "why" is crisis.

Until she deals with the crisis your M will be in limbo.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am