The BIG D and its Path of Destruction - Part 2

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Time for a new thread.

Here is the link to my last thread.

The BIG D and its Path of Destruction

I dropped my kids and my mom off at the airport this morning to fly to NM to be with my X. I will tell you that having to see the pain on my sweet D8’s face was excruciating. My S5 doesn’t quite understand what is happening, so he was fine.

I will say that my X can cause me all the hurt in the world, but it doesn’t compare to see the effect on my kids. This morning I felt the urge to call the X to let her know how I feel about her selfishness. I had plenty of other words TBH than selfishness. I had my phone ready to dial twice, but I stopped myself. I feel much better now.

This has motivated me more than I was before to get my kids back to Ca before the school year begins. I realize that I have a steep uphill battle, but I’m not going down like this.

For you newcomers, my biggest mistake was to try to save my M and thread lightly about custody to avoid pissing my X off. I say F that. The kids come first, because they will always be your kids. Take care of your parental rights first. The R/M will follow.

The X and I did talk shortly about “the letter” that was never served to her. She did get it through her L. This is a little of the convo:

X: The thing that hurt the most in the letter was about my mom. I cycled through hurt and anger. I told myself that you said those things because I wanted a D and you were hurt.

M: I felt that the letter was too harsh….

X: But you said them.

M: I own my part. All I want to do is be a great dad.

X: You are a great dad.

(Note: In her letter/ex parte she again stated that I was an absent husband/father)

M: Hmmmmmm…

X: What? Since I told you that I wanted a D, you have been a great dad.

M: Well I don’t want to get into it, because I will defend myself and we will just go round and round. (This isn’t DB’ing. This convo was about our kids and I feel that she has told herself this enough that she believes it.)

We talked about the case a little and worked on the logistics of getting the kids to NM. She couldn’t even help me with any part of the expense. I suppose she at least gave me an additional day with the kids to get them packed, so that was worth more to me than anything monetary from her.

About the absent father thing, I already have several people, (including some mutual friends that she knew before me) that are willing to provide statements and testify on my behalf saying otherwise. There are other things that I am working on to make my case. I’m going to use this time wisely to compile everything.

I look at this as a blessing and that my kids are in NM on a vacation with their mom.

Oh, before I forget.

Last night my D8 asked me if we are D. I told her no, not right now. She asked what D meant. I told her it is when a married couple goes their separate ways. It means that you and brother will have 2 homes. Unbelievably painful. I honestly wasn’t prepared for that.

I didn’t even touch on her response and my rebuttal. There was so much silliness, that it wasn’t even funny. I don’t even think it is worth wasting my time on. It makes for some good reading I guess.