Hi there,

My wife and I are separated for 5 weeks now. We are basically in no contact, having only exchanged 3 e-emails about practical things. I didn't see any initiative from my wife's side that indicates change, but I do know that she's feeling lonely and upset with this "limbo" situation.

When we separated, it was a very emotional moment and we never had a clear conversation about what happened to our marriage. When I got out of shock, the last thing I wanted was to have that conversation.

I do think that such a conversation has to happen. And I'm afraid that the more time passes, the farther away my wife will be from me.

Should I contact her to have such a conversation? Were any of you in a similar situation before?

Thank you, regards.


Me: 36
Wife: 33
Together: 09/2007
Married: 03/2010
I love you but...: 06/2011
Separated: 06/2011
Rebuilding: 11/2011