Thanks (always!) for your kind and supportive words on my thread. You know I can relate to the "stuck" feeling, no? I'm sorry that you're going thru some lows right now.
So...I'm not exactly masterful at pulling myself out of this stuff but let's see...
I think you're doing GREAT pulling out the positives and/or minimizing your perception of the negatives. I've definitely always found that helpful.
One of the things that I've found for myself...when I'm past the "stuck" episode and looking backward...is that in many ways it's not the fear or sadness or whatever emotion that I'm feeling at the time that feels so terrible...it's the "story" that I layer on top of it that makes the stuckness so sticky! IOW, it's the "you should be over this", "why are you feeling this way", "what is wrong with you" crap that I impose on myself that really makes the episode bad.
What would it feel like to feel what you feel without adding any spin to it? I'm sad, lonely, afraid, whatever..and that's it?
I find that as I'm edging out of the cheeseless tunnel I can expedite the trip by giving to h...IOW, dropping whatever expectations or resentment or fear that I have and viewing him as a fragile, loving, fearful, sensitive person...it just makes it easier to get outside of my own stuff...
Meditating helps me. So does exercise. and chocolate!
Sometimes finding someone to help on the BB is good for me...I will caution about that...as you know, the stories are SO SAD and can bring you back to your own sadness really quickly.
Going for walks.
Getting up really early and hanging out in my yard.
Very positive self-talk. A lot of it!
It's ok to not feel ok, ok?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
