Mockers, Go back and read your WONDERFUL post of 6/3 (I think). Yes, of course you are going to have insecurities. Yes, of course you are going to wonder "what if?" But how far have you come?
I, too, panic when I don't feel okay. I am afraid of having a bad mood... what does it really mean? Well, it simply means you don't feel good about a moment, or you ARE in a bad mood... my gosh, you have been through a battle, shouldn't you have a little bit of shock left over from that?
What has helped me was a lame saying that a friend told me... and I hated hearing it... but "what is, is" is just that... Accept it and move on. Tell yourself "I'm bugged about xyz, ok, how can I deal with that?"
Ask for a hug. Ask for a phone call. You know how to do that in a nonneedy, fun, loving way.
Change your thinking, think about what you need from your H, and ask him for it.
And never stop praying.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.