I don't know why I feel the need to analyze it... I'm just trying to understand what my role in this is that got us here.
I think that with understanding comes empathy, which is part of forgiveness. I am trying to work my way to a point where I can forgive her.
Simple, you stopped being attractive. You probably got complacent and unexciting. Your W was tired of feeling what she felt and someone came along and met her emotional needs. It happens to all us LBH's. She has trouble communicating what she wants so she made a horrible choice on stepping out of the marriage with OM.
In hindsight, I lost myself and ultimately lost her. However, I did everything for ME and forgave myself. Once I found my happiness and let go of the outcome, I forgave her.
Oh, and you know what it's not MY fault that she cheated and deceived me. That's her problem. Same for you. You will wake up one day and know this. It's all about you man. Her problems are hers.
