the problem with linking understanding to empathy to forgiveness is that logic doesn't apply in this case.
logic went out the window a long time ago, emotions are driving now. analyzing her actions, looking for sense will only make you crazy. there are patterns and guidelines, but these are flexible, there is nothing concrete except what you can do for yourself, by yourself.
and as Sandi pointed out, does the answer really change anything?
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
