Tad, You've gotten good advice from everyone. Eric's postings are spot on. You can change, but it's hard work and you have to be happy w/the changes that you make and they must become permanent. As for your wife, she changed and unfortunately, for now, they aren't the best changes in the world. But, she's the only one that can make the right changes/choices for herself.
Tad, take the comments that your son is providing you with a grain of salt. I suspect that your wife is feeding the comments to your son, hoping against hope, he would tell you about them. The comments are keeping you off balance and you need to find your balance and try to stick to it. Okay?
Tad, keep the focus on you and your children. Learn about yourself and you will discover that you can be happy once again being you and that you do not need your wife to define who you are.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
