I guess I am now an official member of the DB club

[JustStunned]

Woodman,

Time to separate those finances, it sounds like.

I agree. My L told me half of what I saved after separating finances was still hers, and half of what she saved was mine. IDK if it is the same in your state.

I firmly believe women can have a MLC for many of the same reasons Sandi gave.

In the rant STBXW wrote to me justifying her abandonment and bombing run she stated

I’m turning 50 this year. I am not where I wanted to be at this age. I deserve a better life than this one with you. This is the life you planned I never wanted it. These were your plans not mine.

I have great difficulty still when I attempt to read it. This little piece is near the beginning before anger overtakes her and the rant begins. Seems to contain MLC components to me.

I very much understand about the house. After we made tweaks to an existing set of plans 24 yrs ago I picked up tools and commenced. It took 5 years, of nights, and weekends, I have an intimate acquaintance with every nail and stick of lumber. It very nearly cost us our marriage 20 yrs ago, and she was hospitalized for depression during construction for several weeks.

I remember sitting in the big empty house we were to grow old, have family holidays, and play with grandbabies in.

I survived.

I will thrive.

You will too.

Don’t write the house off yet. I have a pretty decent shot at keeping mine you may also. Get the facts, don’t speculate.

You’ve been hit with a hard blow. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off; speak with the attorney you have hired about how to protect yourself. Get the facts so you can respond from an informed point of view. Don’t react, respond and act calmly.

Don’t worry about how she will see your 180’s just accomplish them, and live them. They are for you more than for her. She’ll notice when she notices, waiting for an acknowledgement of them is setting an expectation and often is disappointing.

GAL, GAL and GAL. Be so busy being a positive person that you don’t have time to deal with her drama and the D. You’ve hired an attorney to deal with the drama of the D. Meantime GAL like a madman.