Maybe Rue... just maybe... it's time to be a little selfish... like going to the store and buying that cute pair of shoes or some sexy number... on a whim... just because... for YOU...
As difficult as it might feel at this time, this is the time that you NEED to get out, do stuff for you, GAL... however that might look for you. Maybe the library, maybe time at the park, maybe a coffee shop to frequent, maybe spending more time with friends that you've been distant from over the past years...
This is YOU time. And if YOU aren't becoming a more rounded, more better, more exciting, more compelling YOU... then what's to make your H curious about you and interested in your goings on and getting closer to you...?
'cause only with that reaction from him, will he realize that your are an AMAZING woman that only a fool would leave...