Hi kat, that's pretty much what I've done for the past years. Focus on what's big and let the small stuff go, knowing I can't do it all at once physically or emotionally. That applies to the R/M as well as around the place.
Whether you consider it good or bad, I had the chance to do that while still legally M to H as he was about as far gone as he could be without making it final. I will always wonder why he didn't cut that last thread of the rope.
Most everyone here told me to cut the final tie, be done with him. There was something that just didn't let me make that step either. Now here we are, growing forward together again.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
