What can I say man. It is what it is. You may disagree with me, but you're not here. Trust me, XW has guilt issues, job anxiety, MLC issues. I cannot possibly shelter her from any of it. It's evident in her willingness to not seek alimony or any part of my IRA that she knows she's done me wrong.
Now you're probably referring to economic consequences, but I decided long ago to withold from treating my children's mother the way you'd expect to treat a cheating WAW. In time these things will work themselves out. Today it would only make matters worse to box up her belongings and put them in the garage or put her bedroll on the couch (we have no basement).
In fact, she would love me to give her a reason to hate me and justify all the damage she has wrought. But I'm moving on with my life "as if" she was already gone, and only a nanny lives with us now. Don't worry, my eyes have been opened in so many ways, I cannot begin to describe. It's not a painful situation. In due time she will leave on her own. But that doesn't have to happen for me to be free.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
