I guess its MLC-new need advice 6 months in

[Dawn of Hope]

I just put a 9-page post on another thread, so this will be short. ;-)

I hate to discourage you, but my H has been with the same OW for about 4 years now, as far as I know. I really loved that 6-month limit too, but when it came and went and he just kept sliding farther away from me, I had to let go of it. It is difficult, I know, but the sooner you let go of attachment to a timetable, the easier your life will be.

Have you read Divorce Remedy? If not, then do so immediately! RUN, do not walk, to the library or your favorite bookstore, and get it. Read the other resources you were sent in the beginning as well; they will help you. It is just like MWD says: It will take a long time, and no matter how long it is, it always feels a lot longer.

I'm sorry to be discouraging, so here's a positive thought for you: Take 5 minutes and just concentrate on your breath. Breathe in deeply, slowly, then pause, and then let the air out, slowly, then pause, then repeat. If other thoughts intrude, just gently refocus your attention on your breath. (This is an old yoga exercise, and I have been relying on it for years to help me find peace and calmness in the midst of storms.)

Peace and blessings,
Dawn