MMF, I hope u don't mind, but I want to address Starsky and his concerns about our standing and our children. Starsky, u seem to think we r hurting our children by standing for our marriages, and that is not the case. MMF has stated his children r having trouble, not because he is standing, but because of the effects tjat Separation and Divorce have on children. It is never easy for a child to deal with at any age. If u were to ask ur friends whose parents r still married if those same parents divorced today they would tell u it would be devastating to them. I know many of us who stand for our marriage in a way that is honorable and allow our children to understand the importance of marriage and the vows we take. Being Christian and listing to God and following His will is all part of that. I have had a very frank discussion with my D about making promises and keeping them. I have explained that no one deserves to be treated poorly, but when I made my marriage vows, they were not just to her father but God also and I have to keep those vows to God no matter the choices her father is making. She totally got that, and understands that standing for my marriage is nothing like being a doormat, but all about keeping my promises. I hope this really helps u to better understand our decisions to stand for our marriage and how that in and of itself doesn't hurt our children, the separation and divorce is what hurts them and causes them to make poor choices.
Blessings!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
