My H is still with the OW, they r living together and have been since April. A's can last anywhere from a couple of days to years, and I believe the MLCer is in such a state that they need the OP as a bandaide. They don't want to think about how to make things work at home, that is where the problem is, they don'twNt to work on themselves because that is the problem too. Don't try to put timeliness on things, this MLC is so unpredictable. Stay focused on yourself and how u can grow from this experience.
My H too rarely sees our D and it is very hard on her. My H and Had the beat relationship and many were quite enamoured at their mural admiration society they had going on, now nothing. It is so sad to see, and I can so anything about it but be there for her. She is so angry and tries to hide it most of the time. She has even said she feels the OW took her place in her fathers life. It make me want sick. I have spoken to her about forgiveness and her father not being in a good place right now, but it doesn't help, she feels abandoned by him.
I just try to keep us moving forward and living as though he is never coming back. It has helped us both and we even make future plans now.
I hope this helps u some. Sorry for the typos I am using my phone and don't catch them all.
Blessings!
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
