Quote: I'm not sure about the reassurances - sometimes H seems to understand, but in other situations, he seems annoyed that I need them - kind of the attitude that, "I'm here, what more reassurance could you posssibly need?" Which, in a way, makes sense.
That is my H's attitude as well. I said something to him about me being so needy recently, and he said that is alright, which of course, confirms that I'm being needs. When we were S, I was Miss Independent and now I've turned back into this needy person needing him to tell me he is back for good. I'm sure some is natural, but I think it is time for me to trust him and just let it all go. I survived without him, I won't die. Time to relearn what I did well during S! Think I'm journaling on your thread, but we seem to be going through the same stuff.
I know your H loved how strong you were while you guys were S. Do you feel yourself slipping from that person? And I bet you are twice as interesting as the bar-flies that go to the beer nights!
H told me last week that what he says he means. I guess it is time to take them at their word and just let it go.
There seem so many positives in your world, I'm glad you are doing the date nights. I need to check out the flylady for "in house" date nights. Start being creative.
Keep focusing on the positives and I hope you are saying thank you when he is complementing your figure!
