I will tell Puppy you were looking for him. We're pretty tight.
Bark, I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but happy that you sound strong. The "dirty little secret" about these marital websites is that by the time most people find their way here, their marriages are dead-men-walking, and the success rates are low. But some DO make it, and getting this kind of help (and self-help) does give you the best chance of saving a marriage.
Also, as you and Goodman and others will note, if you save YOURSELF in the process, it ain't a bad deal at all. You can then apply that "new you" to a brand-spanking-new relationship, or you might end up one of the 20% or so that ends up back with your spouse, somewhere down the road, when you're both more emotionally healthy. Either way, such "new-and-improved" people almost always report that the new marriage is better than ever.
