Dealing with MLC wife and her supporting mother!

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Missmyfriend,

Thank you so much for our reply. Man,to take the time to reply and give so much great advice from your PHONE, deserves a real big THANK YOU!

For a man to go through this ordeal, especially a hispanic man, and not end up in Jail, takes devine intervention. Yes my friend, I walk with the Lord. I've been a devout Levite for my church for the last 7 years. I attend West Pines Community Church. Their support, love and attention has been simply, OVERWHELMING.

I attend mens group every Monday. Worship rehearsal on Wednesdays and of course, service on Sundays. Within the last month or so, my prayer time has decreased. I blame NONE but MYSELF. I felt broken, tired and to be honest, USELESS. Everytime I spend time with my kids and have to bring them back to what was once my home, is gut wrenching and very emotional.

For a short time recently, I had decided to go on a date. I was really enjoying this other person but I soon came to realize that it was just a short fix to an existing problem. I believe this person was a distraction from the enenmy. All this venture did was to spend more money and take me away from my prayer life. I quickly caught on. So, I put an end to it, got back up and looked towards my holy father again.

Its so hard to see that no matter how hard I try to be good with her, despite of EVERYTHING she has put me through, she still rips me to pieces.

To be honest with all of you, my heart tells me this is going to blow through. When I pray, I pray for knowledge, wisdom and patience. Ive been recently praying for a decent place to live. Someplace I can bring my kids to. Because, when she is out partying, they are with their grandmother bored out of their minds. They should be with me at those hours of the night.

When I call, I hear allot of screaming. There’s allot of tension building in that house. Allot of fighting between my wife and her mother. The enemy seems to be having fun there. Since the beginning of this whole ordeal, my wife has tamed down allot. She also claims to have NEVER said or done the things she did. Thank God for texts :o) When I show them to her, like the ones that she said that she no longer loved me and to move on with another woman, she claimed that she did not write it and that when she said to move on, it meant to get my life in order. WTH??? My reply was simply, “You and the babies are my life. Therefore, my life WAS in order”.

When I try to reason with her it is IMPOSSIBLE! She just won’t listen. She won’t go to counseling, she won’t take the kids to therapy and she will not go to therapy even for herself.

Today, I gave up and contacted a lawyer. Not for a divorce, but to receive some understanding of what my legal rights are. Basically, wether this separation is her fault or not, I am just flat out SCREWED! $1500 a month in child support! Yet, she can live in her home with her mom that pays ALL her bills and she gets to be with the babies if and when she decides to stay home.

Its so unfair that she decides to end our marriage and Im left struggling while she lives it up.

Im just taking things day by day and keeping my faith. The Lord as always proven to me that he answers in his time. And when he does, I will see that his result is and ALWAYS will be the best way.

Thanks for taking the time to reply to me “missmyfriend”.

My the Lord bless and keep everyone going through this kind of mess.

Knees to the earth and eyes to the sky!