You hit the nail on the head a couple posts back we as LBS can’t change anyone except ourselves. We can’t hold onto hope that we will save our marriage all we can do is hope our paths cross again down the road. What’s going to be is going to be we just need to use the knowledge we have acquired to make the best out of a bad sitch.
As far as going dark I thought that meant absolutely no contact? I would say he couldn’t feel any loss if you fire off a couple texts a week. As far as the children are concerned that would be the only time I would contact him about anything. Then again what do I know, nothing has moved my W away from the OM yet.
If he keeps pushing I would kindly let him know that these are the choices he needed for himself.
I think the more you pull away the pendulum could start to swing the other direction. Then again it will be your choice if you would be interested in starting a new R with your H.
I feel the WAS thinks everything is going to be so much better when they leave but what they don’t know is they are not repairing the problems, they are just masking them and they will surface again at some point.
Me 44 W 38 M 18 D 18 D 13 Bomb 10/21/2010 Divorced 7/19/2011 Just getting to the 7th inning!
