But the EA/OM and the lying that goes along with that crosses my boundary. I feel like I am presenting myself as weak by not standing for my own beliefs and principles about our M.
You may have to decide whether you want to be right or save your M. And really, what both of those look like.
Originally Posted By: Telemark
You mentioned my goal. Not so many weeks ago, my goal was to keep W in the house, which I thought gave me a better shot at keeping our M intact.
I don't know how much closer to this goal you would be by taking back the bedroom.
Originally Posted By: Telemark
My true goal is to be as happy and satisfied with myself as I can be, and I'm finding that very difficult to achieve while living with my W.
I think you've been making some positive changes. Look at your experience with Habitat for Humanity the other day. Things like that are getting you closer to that goal, in spite of living with your W.
Originally Posted By: Telemark's voice on the other shoulder
Stay the course. You promised to love her for better or for worse. She is at her worst right now; now is the time to show true unconditional love."
This is truly where unconditional love is at its best - that's when she's at her worst and offering very little, if nothing, in return.
Perhaps you need to closely examine what's working and what's not working. Monitor the results.
Hang in there.
Originally Posted By: jbnati
It's a marathon without mile markers and with multiple finish lines.
