"I am under the impression you have been fed up for some time now with her behavior."

Bingo. If it were just my W needing space & time to sort herself out, I could deal with that. But the EA/OM and the lying that goes along with that crosses my boundary. I feel like I am presenting myself as weak by not standing for my own beliefs and principles about our M.

You mentioned my goal. Not so many weeks ago, my goal was to keep W in the house, which I thought gave me a better shot at keeping our M intact.

But that goal is based on her actions, not mine. My true goal is to be as happy and satisfied with myself as I can be, and I'm finding that very difficult to achieve while living with my W.

But then the other little voice on the other shoulder whispers,"Stay the course. You promised to love her for better or for worse. She is at her worst right now; now is the time to show true unconditional love."

So really, I'll probably take a deep breath, hike up my britches and wade back into the fray.

How's that for mixing my metaphors?


H 56
W 48
D27,S21
SS25
SS22 Severely autistic
M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs.
"I've never loved you" 3/7/2011
Separated 8/7/2011
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