Telemark, I think everybody's situation is different. In my experience, my W moved out of the bedroom into the guest bedroom. I recognized what she really needed was space. Because she was in the guest bedroom, it seemed like she was really bringing the pressure to move out and to D. To take the high road and to reduce pressure, I actually swapped bedrooms with her about 3 weeks in. She since moved out and I'm back in the bedroom with a new bed. However, I think you're situation is different than mine in that regard. I am under the impression you have been fed up for some time now with her behavior. It does appear to me you are prepared for the fall out if you were to start taking back your own life in your own house. IMHO you should not be the one to move out of the house, if it comes to that.
Some things to consider: - What will get you closer to your goal? - How much progress are you making? Is it none? What can you do differently?
Originally Posted By: Telemark
in the hope that something will turn around, which, according to her very words, will not happen?
My DB coach told me once when the WAW says something like this, she may be looking at you, but in reality she is telling herself this to squash her own hope she's feeling at the moment. Just food for thought. May or may not be the case.
However, I think you're situation is different than mine in that regard.
