Its my life

[LearningPatience]

My preferences to your potential Qs:
Q1) 1. Number 3 seems condescending to me. Simple is generally better
Q2) 2. Honest and simple.

If your W doesn't look good, why would you tell her she does? A simple 'nice to see you' is probably a better compliment in that case. And yes, it can be pursuing.

One thing I've had to learn for myself (still work in progress) is not worrying about the 'what if..'s. What if W is rude, what if she starts yelling, what if the alien in her stomach pops out while it's my turn to bowl, getting bile all over the floor causing me to slip and making me miss my spare. You see my point (I think I had one). Those kinds of thoughts drag us down. No expectations = we can relax and be ourselves.

But to answer your question, if she starts acting up, perhaps you could quietly ask her to step aside with you and calmly ask her not to do the things she's doing. It works well with me when I remember to do it.