Sorry for your pain, tele. Hang in there. W is having a very bad episode IMO due to stress of SS21. This too shall pass. Be strong.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012