And the beat goes on...

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Oh, the drama...

This is a long one, so fix yourself a drink and get comfy.

W took SS21 to his doctor yesterday; the autism is coupled with OCD and his OCD episodes have been getting worse. W got home w/ SS21 about 3:30 and I could tell she was very agitated. I asked what was wrong and she said SS21 was out of control at the dr.'s office, and needed to be physically restrained to keep him from hurting himself or others.

But then she went off on a loud tirade about SS21's father (her XH); how he never took time off his work to take SS21 to the dr.; that he always let W handle all the details; that she wanted to run him over, wished he was dead, useless piece of s**t, etc.

They've been divorced for almost 12 years. She has not let go.

You get the picture...

I let her rant, told her I was sorry about the problems and offered to stay w/ SS21 if she wanted to return to work for the rest of the afternoon. She agreed and left. When she got home in the evening, I made sure everybody was cool, calm and collected and I left to join a friend for dinner.

Halfway through dinner I get a TM from SS21's stepmother ( W#2 to my W's XH...everybody follow that?). She asks if I can call her immediately. I explain the sitch to my friend; he knows what is going on and graciously allows me to call her.

So I call. Stepmom tells me my W has been calling and texting XH telling him he is a lousy father, irresponsible, completely useless, she wished he were dead,, etc.

You get the picture...

Stepmom then tells me W told XH that SS21 may have the onset of kidney disease due to the amount of lithium he has been taking for his various conditions, and that was XH's fault for not being more proactive with SS21's diagnoses and medications. Of course, XH was shattered with this news.

I told stepmom to tell XH to stop taking W's calls and to not reply to W's texts. We then talked about how we (stepmom & I) could help each other w/ SS21 and not get involved w/ my W and her XH while they are at each other's throats.

As of now, W still has said nothing to me about any of this, including the dr.'s diagnosis of SS21.

I think W is really going off the deep end. She has never torn into somebody that way; not even me. I see her becoming more hardened, more cold, more withdrawn...she is constantly agitated by most of the people in her life. Yes, it is a lot to handle; but to tell her XH she wished he was dead? No excuse for that.

Living in the same house forces me to be closer to these situations than I want to be. This morning I looked at her while she was drinking her coffee, and I realized I am loving her less and less. She has become a stranger to me.