"I have no valid reasons what the heck I did wrong. Obviously bad enough for him to seek OW."
How true. You've looked back at your marriage and said to yourself, "Sure, I made mistakes. We had some tough times. It wasn't perfect. But did it deserve this?"
No, it didn't. But our WASs have rewritten the marriage history to help support their selfish actions. They will recall every hurt, every injustice, every angry word, but become quite forgetful when asked to recall anything good.
At the risk of seeming egotistical and self-serving, I'm going to quote myself from my own thread, not that it is a deep profound thought, but it is what I think we all need to remember:
"My point is that even in the middle of the crap we are all going through, life goes on. We can sit on the sidelines, stay stuck and bemoan our situations or we can reinvent ourselves for the good of ourselves, our family, our friends and others we haven't met yet.
For any newcomers that have landed here and are reading this, I know the intense pain and despair you are feeling right now. And it may sound like a cliche, but it will get better as time goes on if you take charge of your own life, your own emotions and your own activities. Don't get stuck. Get out of the house. Surround yourself with good people. Move your body. Turn off the TV. Read inspirational books and articles. Volunteer to help those who need help. Do something; do anything."
Distancing yourself emotionally, mentally and physically from your situation will help you keep your self-respect, self-esteem and sanity. Easier said than done but once you start, you'll gain momentum.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
