Definitely need to be strong and confident, but she needs to understand that exploding at the drop of a hat is no way to resolve conflict. I promised myself I wouldnt let her do that to me anymore. I know she does it because she feels its the only way I'll understand. Really though it's far from the truth.
We need to move back to catching more flies with honey than vinegar.
I'm trying to get you to learn to operate in a less passive-aggressive mode, careening from kissing her ass to suddenly standing up sternly to her. Not saying that there's not a time and a place for both of those -- there is -- but a man who learns to operate much of his time in the middle, with a steady, strong, confident sense of humor, is very attractive.
