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[GAL Man]

In past meetings with W I have always been conscious of body language, and will continue to do so, esp when at bowling next week as past meetings since the S have only been half hour max, next Tue should be 2-3 hours so will be paying attention.

Hopefully others will find the following useful


Body movement is controlled by the Limbic section of the brain. This part regulates subconscious functions (breathing, blinking etc etc) and also unaware body language signs. These body movements are done subconsciously, so generally without them being aware.

I note this as studies on communication show that when we communicate:

only 7% is based on the words said

38% of our communication is based on how we say the words

And a huge 55% is based on body language




So signs to look for:

Negative signs

1)       Crossing arms - this indicates a defensive stance, and not letting in (if they are like this to start, take note, if it changes to say putting arm round a chair next to you then they are relaxing)
2)       Crossing legs, if sat opposite to you, or if sat next to you they cross there legs away from your direction (foot on opposite side to you)- as per crossing arms indicates defence
3)       Rubbing neck, ear lobes or nose - indicates that they are uncomfortable and nervous
4)       Resting chin on hand etc - indicates boredom
5)       Eyes moving around - indicates non interest, or even non truth!
6)       Leaning back, if person is sat opposite and they lean back - indicates that they want distance
7)       Preening, i.e. picking bits off clothes etc - indicates boredom, non interest and possibly being uncomfortable
8)       Stalling conversation, like trying to pull teeth - indicates, well you know! (time to end conversation and get out)

Positive signs

1)       Crossing legs towards you, if you are sat next to person, and they cross their legs toward you (i.e. their foot is next to you) - Indicates they are interested
2)       Leaning forward, if person is sat opposite to you - indicates they want to be closer to you
3)       Eye contact - indicates they are listening to you and can show honesty
4)       Touching/feeling - indicates they are comfortable with you
5)       Flowing conversation - indicates they are comfortable with you, and not "trying" to force conversation
6)       Smiling

There are other signs, both positive and negative, however the ones listed above are subconscious actions.

In my interactions with W in have noted 2, 3, 5 and 6 from the positive section and only no3 from the negative section