9 There WILL be relapses it's just the nature of the disease. Heck as of 45 mins ago mine went into relapse, and we were doing so well....
Yet with every low there is a high, the goal is to get her where she stops blaming you for her lows, and shares with you her highs. That being said here is some more tips.
Let her get through her lows by herself. She needs to learn to deal with this on her own, and you getting involved will just make things worse. In fact she may WANT you to get involved since she can then place the blame on you for her misery. Do not let her bait you into a fight when on a low. If the fight is already going act respectfully and give her LOTS of room. The more dignified and gentlemanly you act the higher the chances that she may realize she got carried away by her feelings again. If you fight back and get nasty she will feel justified for her actions no matter how nasty. If you hold the higher ground she may realize her over reaction. The goal is for her to realize what she is doing so in the future she can stop herself before things REALLY boil over again.
That being said adultery and promiscuity are symptoms of being low. Sometimes they do it to punish themselves, sometimes it's to punish those who they blame for their lows.
That being said infidelity is a kind of last resort if together you manage her lows well enough day by day the chances will decrease. If the flare ups are mismanaged and gigantic flare ups happen one after the other, expect her to start wandering again, whether it is to make herself feel better, or to punish you.
Finally flare ups during lows are nearly unavoidable, but I'm sure you know the triggers that will make an episode go from mild to catastrophic. With mine it's issues of self sufficiency and respect. Learn how to calm her down, this may mean leaving her alone.
Just some thoughts. Let me know what applies and what doesn't.
