Is filing for D a 180?

[25yearsmlc]

I think it's telling that he checked all your info and the men in your life...

very interesting. He's clearly not indifferent to what YOU are doing.

So how can YOU be a bit more myterious?

What more can you do about GAL? And 180's that you can DO, rather than simply "not reacting" the old way...


Finally, while your pain is not presently matched by his, don't assume he's not in any pain


and don't spend your energy on wanting to punish him.

That's not our jobs as spouses. Tempting, God knows...but Life teaches them the lessons,

not us.

Besides, any punitive action by us only serves to validate their reasons for leaving b/c

by punishing, we "prove" they're right about the negatives they believe about us...


You're above that. Be a woman of dignity and strength in the face of the betrayal.


and

Be a woman only a fool would leave.


Keep at DBing b/c it hasn't been long, although

I know for you, it's an eternity. Still, go as long as you can even when you feel like quitting. I know we all have our limits...

but I felt it was better to go a bit too long than to end a bit too soon.

And I'm glad I did.