Words get in the way

[angel61]

I know its trite, but it takes on new meaning when you realize how it can really affect your M big time!

Anyways....

Yesterday, my sister called me and told me my dad is having a problem with his health again. She called while we were having breakfast, so H heard most of our conversation. I noticed that he suddenly canged mood, became withdrawn and quiet. He did not ask me what was wrong.He did not call me the whole day.

I was thinking back to the time when our M was falling apart, and that was the time my parents lived with us, and had all sorts of health problems. I was so stressed and felt that it was so unfair that H dropped the bomb on me at that time.

I was thinking that maybe H was recalling those bad times and he was getting stressed. I started feeling resentful, thinking of H being selfish again, not caring, but did my best to keep a happy front, and decided not to mention anything to him anymore.

He did start becoming cheerful again in the evening, and this AM, was back to normal.

However, a friend of mine gave me some food for thought, which helped me get back on the positive side: she asked me if maybe, H was avoiding, more because of feelings of shame. I realized that it can also be true. Shame and guilt towards my parents, who he was really close to before.

It made me more compassionate towards him though.

What do you think?