Fisherman, thamks for the encouraging words. Ever thought of becoming a coach or something along those lines?
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You've got some work to do my friend.
No lie there partner. Tons of work!
MHL, I've read some of your posts on here about "Little Friday." I think it is an awesome idea. Mind if I borrow it sir?
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It reminded me that I had "DREAMS" for "ME". I had forgotten about the things "I" wanted in "MY LIFE" even if I did not know how to get there I still dreamed about it, imagined it, felt it.
I'm having a little trouble with this buddy. I was trying to think of what would make me happy earlier today after reading your post. I only came up with one answer and I think we all know what that was. Looks like I need to do some more digging.
Hope you had a great Little Friday!
Antonia, thanks for responding as well.
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Don't worry about how you are perceived. Her "perception" shifts with every minute.
Do you really think it is that extreme?
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It's going to come down to whether she really understands what happened and whether she wants to try to work on things. As long as she is blaming you for this, that, or the other, she is NOT in a position to renegotiate your marriage, and face it, you do not in your core really want a relationship with someone who treats you this way. Remove all that she was in the past. REMOVE IT. Look at the way she is now. YOU DON'T WANT THIS IN YOUR LIFE. It's brutal, it's painful, it's a "relationship" built on her saying jump and you saying how high.
Yeah. I don't like the person she is now. So different from the wonderful person I married and the person she was just one year ago. Yes, the person I know has died.
I've been trying to find anything part-time or full-time. Jobs are hard to come by right now in my state. The volunteer idea is a great one though. Thank you.
*** LATEST UPDATE ***
The other night on the phone, I told her that I was going to the IRS to take care of some tax issues this week. (I'm really going to see if she pulled a fast one me.) I think she knows this because she has called S18 three times this week to see if I have gone yet. I think she knows what she did and knows that she may get caught.
This afternoon at about 5:00 I'm in the car. I get the following text from her right out of the blue:
"YOU HAVEN'T CHANGED AT ALL."
WTF?
I did not respond......
Tad
Currently: M 57 XW 58 Sons 39,34,32,30
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
