Oh Mockers! I havent read your sitch in a while- but wow! Alot of progress in your sitch!! YOu should be very proud of yourself and your positive changes! I am vowing to catch up on your sitch- I feel like I am reading about myself at times!! We have so much in common. I have the same obsessing issues and slowly getting myself better. My H moved back in Nov without much fanfare. Just started staying.My H reacts just like yours. If I am upset or have a different opinion H thinks that this is a BIG problem- this has gotten better and you will too after some time passes more. I had a "closure" discussion with my H on what happened in the A andOP. This helped me tremendously as I realized she got dumped so he could be with me. And... all the imagery of this "wonderful" OP was completely exaggerated. This was just last week and helped tons. I think when he is ready to put it in better perspective- then you can clear the air a bit too. Both of you are jsut adjusting and trying not to fall into old patterns - Congrats!!! It all sounds so good! I would love to compare notes more- back to reading! Shay
