I understand all this waiting game... But part of my current suffering is the idea that without my wife, and while I'm DB'ing and trying to save our marriage, my life is in the "limbo". And I'm 34, not old, but also not that young.
When I was 23 I answered one of those job interview questions that asks you to describe how you imagine your life in 5 or 10 years. I failed miserably, because my life isn't nowhere near what I imagined 10 years ago: I'm alone, with a broken marriage, no kids, no house.
So, the idea of waiting for my wife's contact for months and months makes me fear the future. Were I live, even amicable divorces can take up to 8 months minimum to end. I'll probably be 36 by then...
I'm afraid of not meeting anyone else, of not finding the right person to build a family. I don't obsess with that, but in our societies it's what people do and what seems to make them happy and give sense to their lives.
Am I complicating things to much?
Me: 36 Wife: 33 Together: 09/2007 Married: 03/2010 I love you but...: 06/2011 Separated: 06/2011 Rebuilding: 11/2011
