Why don't you go out? Stop obsessing about stuff that you think is going to make her happy. If you didn't communicate well, then that's something you can work on, but you're not going to do it every second.
Start enjoying your life. Right now you're stuck in limbo. Do you know if your W is seeing the OM?
With the box thing, if you want to assert yourself to her that you don't plan on having your wife disrespect you by seeing another guy while you're with her, now would be the time to pack up her stuff. You can't be half and half on something like this. If you're going to threaten, be sure you're ready to pull the trigger.
Most importantly, start moving on.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
