@ 25. I'm sure she is. I understand where she is coming from. it is safer for me to just assume she meant what she said on Saturday, ignore her and cut her off. I know I'm not to that point (and I don't really want to), but it hurts and some days, it's hard to keep going.
Changes in me are that I'm alot more positive. In work, in life, with friends. I don't judge them for their decisions. I really try to not react, see where other people are coming from. I realize that no one is 100% right or wrong, therefore there is always empathy, validation, and understanding in every conversation. I'm being strong and realizing when I need support vs. being needy.
@ JS - You are right, they are MY boundaries. I think perhaps it's because that's who I'm focusing on. Me and My Codependency. Maybe I set my boundaries because I know deep down if I set boundaries for w to respect she wouldn't.. unless they were "don't talk to me" or "I want you out of my life". I think setting my own boundaries will help me become a better person and will change my dynamic with all r.. including one with w.
Yesterday was my anniversary and although it suKed.. it was bearable. For some reason, today is a little rougher. Perhaps because neither of us acknowledged it. Who knows.
Day at a time. That's how I live. Some times.. its an hr at a time.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
